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Saturday, April 12, 2014

Our Experiences at the BWF Chicago Conference

I woke up at 4:45 in the morning. My clothes were set out, and my eyes were practically swollen shut from being so tired. I threw on my clothes, brushed my hair, did my makeup, and grabbed my daughter Audrey (who was still in her pajamas.) We left by 5:15 in the morning to meet Tabitha, a carpooling buddy I met on Facebook. We traveled together to Chicago for the Birth Without Fear Conference.

Somehow, by the grace of God, we missed all the rush hour traffic. We arrived roughly and hour before conference registration started, so we decided to get breakfast at Denny's since neither of us had time to eat. Audrey and Tabitha's son Lincoln had a fun time hanging out while the two of us ate our breakfasts and got to know each other a little bit better. We learned that we're both interested in birth work and share similar spiritual and parenting interests. Needless to say, conversation was never lacking!

After breakfast, we started looking for parking. It took us longer than it should have to find the appropriate place to park, but we got the hang of it once we learned to start following the groups of women wearing babies and/or pushing strollers. I brought a stroller, but after unpacking it I realized that the tire was flat. (Bummer!) It wasn't a big issue because I had my sling with me, but the stroller would have been nice to hold our luggage. After getting situated at the car, we arrived at the conference just in time to find a seat, grab water, change the babies, and sit down to relax.

I was so excited that Ashlee and her business partner from The 4th Trimester Bodies Project had a booth. Ashlee kicked off the day by telling her own birth story and the inspiration for her empowering business. I bought a bag to show some support. (They both complimented me on my flowy skirt, so I couldn't help myself.) If you haven't heard about it, you should look them up. They've been getting a lot of flack from Facebook and it's draws quite a bit of media attention.

After Ashlee spoke, there was another woman who took the stage. We had a conversation about Aunt Flo where we learned about some products to use for your menstrual cycle aside from pads and tampons that are loaded with toxins. It was informative and entertaining. As a whole, this conference was great, but I would have loved to have more speakers talk about a variety of things like menstrual health, essential oils, natural family planning, making cloth diapers, et cetera. However, this conference was a meet-up, so the emphasis was more on meeting people face-to-face and making awesome conversation.

There were a lot of giveaways. I left the conference with an entire bag full of stuff I didn't have before, and I didn't even choose the package with the baby carrier. After January (who is the leader of Birth Without Fear) mentioned something about how people should come up to her and talk, I decided to introduce myself and let her know how her blog helped me to prepare for a great hospital birthing experience. She was funny, bubbly, and flattering. The first thing she did was tell me how beautiful I looked. Compliments are always wonderful to hear, so I was sure to pass the compliment on to some other ladies throughout the conference.

Later in the day we had a harmony circle where we sat at tables and discussed some pretty personal stories. Even though the whole day was essentially about me and my body, this part of the day was interesting to me as a doula. I was able to hear about so many different birth stories and struggles other women went through. There were tears, laughter, and tea to help us get through the emotions we were feeling. I liked hearing the stories of other women because I was able to analyze their situations and challenge myself to find solutions to their problems. (Of course, this whole process was in my head. When they would tell their stories I would listen, but I would also do some troubleshooting. I couldn't help it!) 

The conference concluded with January sharing her 5 birth stories. Each one was so different; it was an excellent way to show how unpredictable and awesome birth can be. Tabitha and I packed up and headed home, but before we went home we stopped to get some Starbucks. Our energy levels were quickly depleting, and I knew that if we had any chance of survival we would need fuel.

One Veni blah, blah. Thanks.
Audrey had an awesome time hanging out with all the other babies and toddlers. The kiddos at this conference behaved so well! Maybe it was due to all the people babywearing, the gorgeous day, fabulous parenting, or maybe it was something they gave nursing moms in the Earth Mama Angel Baby tea that passed through our breastmilk into our nurslings...

The day was fun. It was a great experience for Audrey and me, and I was able to meet a new friend! I look forward to attending more conferences in the future and bringing my daughter along with me.

Saturday, March 1, 2014

Embracing My Spirit Animal: The Tiger

My Spirit Animal: Tiger

Spirit Animal

Characteristics: Willpower, personal strength and courage, aggression or anger, unpredictability

Spirit Animal Profile: In the kingdom of spirit animals, the tiger puts a special emphasis on raw feelings and emotions. The tiger spirit animal symbolizes primal instincts, unpredictability, and ability to trust yourself. By affinity with this spirit animal, you may enjoy dealing with life matters spontaneously, trusting your intuition and acting fast when needed.

When I first read this, I laughed to myself. I’m not wild and unpredictable. But then, I took a step back and realized that I was thinking about myself being rebellious and uncontrollable, and in some ways, actually, that’s true. I like to go against the grain--I just do so quietly, and I don’t cause many ripples when doing so. I don’t have to be an angry person for the tiger to be my spirit animal. It actually makes a lot of sense.

What spoke to me most in this description of spirit animal is the idea that I deal with life matters by “...trusting [my] intuition and acting fast when needed.” This is very true. I believe that intuition is a sense that humans often overlook, especially in Western culture. Although science is necessary and useful, the idea of I’ll believe it when I see it doesn’t always apply to me in daily life. Knowledge is power, certainly; but to only act on what you know can lead to a life where you’re constantly searching for facts and proof and only believe what you can see, touch, or smell. You might be okay with that, but I’m not, and that’s why I trust my instincts in addition to what I know in important situations. If I don’t trust my instincts when I’m making a decision, I can assure you, the job/activity/situation has never worked out. 

Special Thanks to Wild Woman Sisterhood

I choose to educate myself on matters, but I also have chosen to let go. Essentially, I trust myself, and I trust the process of life. I flourish on unpredictability--the idea that I won’t know how something is going to turn out. It drives my husband crazy, but I like the calm after the storm. It makes me enjoy silence and relaxation, whenever I have that.

Although I embrace the wild part of me, I know that it can sometimes be a burden on other people as well as myself. As I vaguely just mentioned, I don’t have a lot of silence and relaxation in my life. Stillness is something that I believe to be important, but I don’t value my personal time as much as I should. I’m addicted to being busy. I want to make a difference in the world, so I work my tail off endlessly to do so, but I often forget about myself.

How can I change that? I recently went through a time of major reflection, and serendipity has played its part. I’m looking forward to having a quieter, family-centered life, while embracing my tiger spirit, and using my energy for the good of others, and myself.  

I follow a Facebook page, Wild Woman Sisterhood, and I came across this. Enjoy.

by Amy D. Penny

I listen to my heart and I follow my intuition. I am wise. I am strong. I am happy to just be me.

The Wild Woman can be found within any woman, but despite the occasional sighting of the Wild Woman she is lost behind social masks and expectations.

When the Wild Woman is lost, an innate part of the woman is lost.

The Wild Woman celebrates the woman within in all her uniqueness and beauty. The Wild Woman is above reproach. She is a natural healer. She is sensual without apology. She is compassionate and supportive. She lifts others up. She is confident yet humble. She is connected to nature. She is creative. She is strong without being hard or brash. She dances and sings because she just can’t stop herself from enjoying life.

She is simply herself. She honours who she truly is. She stands in her own power and she speaks her own truth. She sets values to live by and she is accountable for her actions and her words...

What’s your spirit animal? Find out what it is, and is discover whether or not you agree with it. What things are true? What are false? How? Why? What do you like about yourself? What would you like to change, and how will you do it? Find your spirit animal HERE.

What’s also humorous is that I found this picture. I’m now not only a tiger on the inside, but I have stripes. #proudmama